Wednesday, December 01, 2004

Top 10 video games parents should be wary of

Ok first off, every one of the games on the list are rated "M" for MATURE. Children should never have access to these games to start with but apparently over-zelous groups feel it needs to be stressed further.


CNN Money, 'Doom 3' vs. 'Madden'
Interest group identifies video games it says are inappropriate and appropriate for kids.


While there are some good points in the article the bottom line is that it's parents responsiblity to know what their kids are playing. A friend of mine and his wife have strict rules as to which games can be played at their house. Most games rated T are still out of the question because their youngest is not yet of that age. Some of those games have been racing games such as Test Drive: Eve of Destruction, because of, "Mild Lyrics, Mild Violence, Simulated Gambling". The lyrics are in the music that is playing, which you can turn off. The violence is inherent in the game as it's demolition derby. The gambling is, you race other players for money. Most of these themes are not beyond a 9-13 year old and other games have 'gambling' but since it's not with 'money' they don't have a problem with it.

The point of this is that parents have to judge games for themselves. Ratings are there to guide, but are not fool proof. But it's pretty clear that most Mature rated games don't need to be in the hands of younger children. They suggest 17 and up. That's reasonable for most.

This is no different than movie ratings, which personally I feel have degraded badly in recent years, but for some reason it's a big deal because video games are supposedly precieved to be only for kids. That's a bunch of crap there. Most of us who grew up on Pong, Atari and even NES are now adults and we still like to play video games. As we've grown our tastes and themes have changed. Jumping for magic mushrooms and the like evolved. We want more story. Look at how amazingly successful Myst was/is. It has no major violence and killing or sex, but it had a great story and puzzles that were geared to a more developed mind. An eight year old even today would likely be frustrated or bored with Myst as it's a bit more than the average child intellect can deal with. Not to suggest there are none, I know of some myself.

As technology has improved so has game-play and story. Games coming out today have more im common with movies than they do computer programming. Developers utilize the same technology to develop creatures and special effects. Games today have better special effects than some movies just 5-10 years ago. We can play live action rendered on-the-fly 3D games that are nearly as beautiful as Toy Story when it came out and that took hours per frame of film!

For some reason parents seem to treat games like movies though. They don't restrict when they should. I saw a whole family come into the theater to see Hellboy when it came out. While it wasn't rated R it certainly was not acceptable for a 3-5 year old little girl, such as they had with them. The father had to take her out after the first 30 minutes and frankly that was probably too long.

Where did peoples brains and good judgment go? If you're a parent you should know what you are buying your children, not just getting something because its on their wish list. And explain to them why they cannot have it. You think my friends kids are happy about being restricted from more mature games? His son wants to play Grand Theft Auto and other such games because they look (and are) cool to play. But rules are there for a reason. Some of the things you can do in those games a pre/early teen doesn't need to be exposed to just yet.

Adults know the difference between entertainment and reality. Children build their perceptions of reality based on their experiences. Giving them these experiences before they are ready to realize it cannot be reality can be dangerous.

It's easy for me to preach not having any children yet and I recognize there are likly things I'm not considering from a parent perspective, but I'd still argue that parents have to regulate their children. That responsiblity is not that of game maker or retailers who sell them. A video game store like EB Games has the responsiblity, as a theatre does, to prevent minors from buying a mature rated game (or see a rated R movie), but if the parents buy it for their child, the parent is the guilty party, not the store.

Tuesday, November 16, 2004

Settling In

Melly and I are starting to turn our house into a home. When I first moved in the place was pretty empty and I just lived in the rooms I need to use. It was definitly a bachelor pad.

Now it's very different. The rooms are filling out nicely and it's looking more like a real home, not just a half empty house.

There are lots of things that still need to be done yet, but if you consider Melly has only been here for about 2 weeks, though it seems like its been longer (good thing), things have come a long way in a very short amount of time.

The cats are getting used to things too. I think they enjoy the new stuff to check out. Loki is starting to get comfortable with Melly, but he's still a bit of a spook around her though.

Without going into all the details, I know I'm really excited about all the stuff that's happened. I believe Melly feels the same. I hope she feels more at home now. I know I do.!

Wednesday, November 10, 2004

Moving and moving in

I flew up to get Melly on Halloween. She met me at the airport with her van, hauling a large 6x12 UHaul trailer. Both the van and trailer were packed full.


Since I didn't check any luggage, I slung my bag on my shoulder, after a warm hug and kiss, and we walked out to the parking lot.

Bertha, as we affectionately named Melly's van, worked hard pulling the trailer, but nothing too terrible. She struggled up a few of the mountains and bumps were murder, felt like the whole ass end of the van was going to yank off. Once she was on nice smooth interstates she did fine though.

The first night we ended up stopping at the Bates Hotel. Not really, but it was kinda freaky like that. It was only $45 for the night though and it was dark and rainy, so it was for the best we stop that night. The bed wasn't the most comfortable and they only got one channel that wasn't fuzzy, but it was a place to rest.

By Tuesday we made it home. I was pooped! Melly did some driving, but I did a majority. I didn't mind, she wasn't real comfortable in the heavier traffic, especially with the trailer. It was a pretty trip, but it'll be much better next time with no trailer to worry about. Next time being a road trip or vacation, not a move.

Melly seems to be getting adjusted. I know its not easy for her all the time though. She left behind all she knew. She probably feels a bit trapped sometimes too. I consider it OUR home, but the reality is that it's in my name and she is well aware of that. I think she oaccationally feels that she's at my mercy. Even thought she is completely safe with me and I would never take advantage of the situation not having a job and being dependant on me makes that more difficult for her. I think time and her finding a job that she likes will make that easier for her.

She's looking for jobs already, but she wants to take her time finding one. To find the right job and to get used to the traffic and area here. I totally and completely support that. The original plan, before she moved here, was for her to take about two months to get settled. I think that's still viable.

She has already made a huge impact on the house. It looks more like a home now. A womans touch makes a HUGE difference. I really like the changes she's made. It makes the place more comfortable and inviting. We still have a lot we want to do, but it's coming together now. It's really great working on the place together as a couple.

So while we both have some growing and adjusting to do being in the same house and dealing with one another every day like that, it's been great. It feels very natural to me. It doesn't feel forced. She doesn't just feel like a room mate, she's the woman I want to spend my life with, all of it.

Thursday, October 28, 2004

Big Week Ahead!

I'm really excited about this weekend and the coming week! Melly is moving down! Sunday I'm flying up to meet her and we are driving down.


At first I really wanted to get back here fast, but now I think it will be more enjoyable and less stressful if we just drive more relaxed. Drive until we are tired and be comfortable calling it a day. Why push it?

For the last month or so we've both been excited and scared to various levels about the move. Now it's only days away and it's like WOW!

We are both starting a new chapter in our lives, one we will write together. It's an amazing and wonderful thing!

Thursday, September 16, 2004

Home

I havent written in awhile and I wanted everyone to know I'm safe and ok. I've just been terribly busy with the house and school. Once I get settled more, I hope I'll have more time to write. I don't even have much time here at work. We are about to launch our new website, that I designed, we have a users conference that envolves the entire company AND later next month we'l be getting in a bunch of new computers to replace some old ones. Lots on my plate. Wow! I'm busier than I realized! I guess I better get back to it.

Tuesday, August 31, 2004

The house is mine! All mine! Muahaha!

Well it's official. I'm now a home owner! Wish me luck.

I've not moved in yet, so I'm not totally sure what I've gotten myself into yet, but I'm excited right now.

So thus opens a new chapter in my life, exciting and scary.

Thursday, August 19, 2004

Black Lists vs. Individual Filters

I've been working with our customer mass email list today. This is a list that we use to notify our customers when software updates are ready, federal or state news pertaining to HR or Payroll and yes, some marketing. Our customers request to be on this list, so even the marketing materials are NOT spam.

We use a product/service called ExactTarget.com. They provide the means to send to these large lists, while providing statistics and other handy tools. They have strict rules governing their use and they do not tolerate clients using their services to send spam. They want to remain on the good side of the very narrow line between legitimate marketing email and spam.

Some of our customers ISPs or even their internal IT departments refuse to open up their server level filters to us, leaving us and our contact at that company with no reasonable option. Basically they are out of luck.

I've seen this kind of spam filtering before and while it's quite effective at blocking junk email, it has a high rate of false-positives. In other words, lots of legitimate email gets filtered out as well. Personally I feel this is much too drastic, especially when the email administrator is unwilling to give his/her users an flexibility. A few of our customers' ISPs were quite willing to open up our emails to our client. Others almost laughed in their faces and said, "In your dreams!" Email Dictators!

What we use here, where I work (I use it at home too), is a much more personalized approch, where the end user can make the determination of whether the email is junk or not. It's a free open-source product called "SpamBayes". You can get it from SourceForge. It's a great filter that 'learns' through a little training what is spam and what is 'ham' (good email). Through statistical analysis it is quite successful at moving junk into the junk folder and it also has a nice 'suspects' folder for those emails that it's not quite sure about.

Since implementing SpamBayes the users here have been a LOT happier and I very rarely hear any problems about junk mail now. If you're a home user or work user, take a look at this product. If you have a lot of issues with junk mail, you'll like this product and solution a lot more than letting your ISP screen everything.